Who am I talking to? Who might need a doula? Part 5 - PREGNANT & CONFUSED/ SAD/ ANGRY

You found out that you are pregnant and it might have come as a surprise, you might be in a complicated relationship, or it might be a baby coming from an abusive situation, or you might simply just not feel super ready for it. Still, having an abortion is not an option for you. And that is your choice and frankly nobody else's business.

Perhaps you were looking forward to becoming a mum, but it turns out pregnancy brings up some issues, physically or emotionally that you didn't expect to deal with. Everybody automatically assumes you are over the moon when you announce that you are creating another being, but you don't get it because you are feeling far from overjoyed! There are adjustments you never imagined you would have to go make, to eat, to sleep, to drink. You are finding yourself having to change a lot of your habits, and it isn't fun.

And you might be fine with pregnancy, but so taken by fear of birth, fear of what comes after birth, that you can't enjoy what is happening now. You are told your body is made to birth, but you don't see it, it doesn't seem natural for you at all. Then I am here to provide as much information as I can to help you prepare, and help you believe in your ability to birth your child and your capacity to care for your baby once the birth has occurred.

I am not here to judge, I am not here to shame you. I come as a support who will have you and your well-being in mind. I want to give you the tools to find the way that is right for you. Fun ways sometimes, finding a route that makes your situation bearable at the very least. You might not live pregnancy like people want you to, but as long as you find a way to experience it in a way that works for you, it is the most important. My mission is to help you help yourself.

Whether you feel confused or sad or angry, I hope to help you allow yourself to feel those things. You are pregnant and a lot of people around you might make you feel as though you "should" feel a certain way. In my eyes you feel what you feel, and whatever it is, it is nobody's business to judge that it should be otherwise. It is ok either way.

Whoever you are, I hope to bring a little light in your heart !

Wishing you to focus on you and what you want and need!

See ya 😘

Who am I talking to? Who might need a doula? Part 3 - PREGNANT MUMS & HAPPY TO BE.

Pregnant & Happy to be

You found out that you are pregnant, maybe you were trying, maybe it happened and you feel grateful that it did, you thought you couldn't have kids and it just happened as a surprise... All in all, you are pregnant and you can't stop smiling! Girl I'm smiling with you, my teeth are all out! Such an exciting and life changing time in your life!

I am a birht professional, so I do understand the different stages of pregnancy, on physiological, psychological and hormonal levels. I get it. Things are changing completely inside of you and it is so damn exciting, I can just be there by your side to help you get all the resources you need. I am like a very close friend who can't wait to hear about every doctor's appointment, every little turn your baby took in his sac. I help you prepare for the birth in order to empower you with the birth experience that is best for you, I help you structure yours and your partner's wishes and fears, write it down, apprehend it, control it. I'll be that person you call after you see your midwife to say how happy you are that the baby is in good shape. I am the one who organises a blessing ceremony for you and your baby to cross this new life path. I am the one that shares different rituals until we find the ones that work for who you are.

I give you support and I give you information so you know where to get your own information. I am the one who provides you with evidence based information so you can make informed choices. My role is to help you reach autonomy and confidence to voice your wishes and concerns to the professionals who are involved in yours and baby's health.

There are a lot I know, but a lot I don't know, but luckily, I have a big family of doulas supporting and cheering, ready to help if I need it. In my community, there are wonderful souls and amazing birth professionals, that I will not hesitate to refer you to if I know your questions and concerns are out of my capacities.

And I am that person who will take your choices as gifts, as they aren't for me to judge, whatever you do, it is what is best for you, so I'll be supporting you in whatever you decide. Although you are happy to be pregnant, although you are delighted because you are in full health and so is your baby, you may experience some discomforts, and I would love to hear about those too. Together we can find ways to know where it comes from, find the best way to deal with it, or to accept that it is part of the experience.

In short, I am your biggest supporter, with my knowledge, my community and my empathy I help you prepare for the best birth experience for you. I am an extra person who will have your back every step of the way.

For every happily pregnant person right now, I am raising a lovely cup of herbal tea!

Hope you enjoyed the read!

Until the next time 😘